Living Your Purpose Now #2
|November 15, 2011||Posted by Michael Hardy under Figs and Gold|
Debra Jarvis, Australia’s most popular Feng Shui personality found passion for life when she started asking ‘How …?’ Check out her youtube channel: www.youtube.com/user/selfleadership1
Does your life seem ordinary? Are you frustrated, hearing about successful people who turned their life around when some ‘big’ thing happened? Would you like to take action and change the direction of your life without some traumatic incident to act as the catalyst?
15 years ago I was that person, I had a good job, a nice house, a decent husband, a new car and annual overseas holidays. Still I felt like something was missing in my life, I was acting a part, going through the motions. On the outside it looked like I had it all, while on the inside I was shriveled up. I was a pleaser, looking out for everyone else; I never stopped to ask what was right for Debra. My life wasn’t fulfilling. I was sick of predictability and craved excitement.
Growing up, the world was my oyster; I could be, do and have almost anything I wanted. The problem was I didn’t see that. I love to perform and in my family the arts were considered a dubious profession that attracted ‘the wrong crowd’. I was gently guided towards math’s and sciences which I did okay in. They just didn’t get my creative juices flowing, that non-feeling, non-involved, non-participation feeling became ‘normal’.
Fifteen years ago I read Baraba Sher’s “I could do anything, If Only I knew What It Was”. One strategy changed my life. I started to do things, to give them a go, whether I thought I was really interested in them in not. I learnt that because you start something, you don’t have to keep doing it.
This revolutionized my life! I began ‘dropping in’ on activities and along the way found some things that ignited the spark within me. I discovered that I’m really interested in people, what makes them tick, why they behave in different ways in a variety of situations. I also love logic and systems, and discovered Feng Shui, a system of arranging living and working places to enhance the lives of those that inhabit those spaces.
I recognized that inspiring and empowering people to fulfill their own special purpose and potential fascinates me and that by understanding how people process and interact with themselves, people in different situations and their environments I can help them make changes to both their environments and to their thinking that revolutionizes how they experience life.
Along the way I’ve learned to say ‘Yes’ to my needs and wants. I’ve distanced myself from people who attempt to use guilt and obligation to manipulate or who simply couldn’t understand. I avoid most forms of mass media (unless I’m featured) and am selective about where and with whom I invest time.
This is not to say my life is ‘perfect’ I have more challenges, I’ve had experiences that others might see as ‘bad’. My journey and the destination is continually evolving.
I don’t have it all in the material sense, I do have everything that’s important to me and I love each day of my life. I can laugh at stuff as it happens and I have tools in my toolkit to keep me on my path and out of the wilderness.
Even on the occasions that I lose my way, life is vastly improved to when I was dancing to everyone else’s tune and couldn’t even conceive that I had music in me that only I could play.