Are you hot, cold or just plain old lukewarm?
|December 5, 2011||Posted by Michael Hardy under Figs and Gold|
I was a pleaser most of my life. A camellion of character and personality. I would do or say whatever I had to in order to make someone else like me or feel comfortable with me.
I also realized that I was allergic to confrontation. A fight scared me. I was a peacemaker. A Ghandi type. A lover not a fighter.
Armed with a pleasing personality and the inability to pick a fight a guy who is plain old luke warm. Nothing could be more inhibiting to a person. We as humans have a need to be expressive. My form when I was younger was painting, drawing, listening to music. I was more physically expressive. I have lost some of that physical creativity and now rely more on my mental creativity.
An argument, which is really the organized expression of thought, through words, towards a favorable convincing personal outcome can be creative expression. But if we don’t have the balls to pick a side and stick to it we become like leaves in the wind blowing in the direction of every one else’s words. Not only is it un-empowering to the self but it also gives those around us the feeling that this person has no internal compass so why should I respect them.
Pick a side, believe in it and fight for it until you’re grossly humiliated by the fact that you were wrong. People will have more respect for you and you will live more purposefully.
Give me a cold glass of water or a hot cup of tea, but don’t ever give me a luke warm glass of milk because ill spit it out!
Are you hot, cold or plain old lukewarm?
(1) Think about an important subject matter to you
(2) Pick a side
(3) Fight for it and don’t sway